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BEFORE YOU TELL ME I LOVE YOU

 


Before you tell me "I love you", 


.... make sure you mean it. 


Make sure, you've sat down and bit your nails. Make sure you've stared at my picture - I mean that one you stole from my DP or wall and set as your wallpaper just for the night. 


Make sure you have given it time and understand what it actually is and see if it will dwindle or wither as the day passes. 


Make sure you go over our chats each and everytime; laughed over my dry jokes when you're alone and make sure you've "gisted" about me to your friends and family. 


Make sure you've loved yourself first. Because you can't give what you don't have.

 Make sure you have allowed the ghosts of your Exes go. Make sure they don't hover around like Casper in the halls of your heart because I won't allow it even if they are friendly. 


Make sure you've asked God about me. If this is what He has planned. Make sure you come with an open heart and not with your OWN answer lurking around sheepishly. 


Make sure you've seen the real me, beneath, in-between, over and within. Make sure you can get used to my gestures, make sure you can stand my habits, make sure you know I have flaws, and make sure you will love me flaws, dents and faults. 


 Make sure you believe in my dreams. Make sure you know I have prospect(s) and you can work with them in the long run. 


Make sure you know I'd need you in days when I feel down, moody, depressed and useless.  Make sure you will be ready to see my silly Indian movies with me and cry with me when Rahul and Priya are being persecuted for their love. 


Before you say "I love you", make sure you mean it. Make sure it's a decision and not just a feeling. Make sure it didn't occur out of assumptions or the need to fill up a void.  


Make sure you'll let me be the woman I am called to be and you're willing to support me and let me support you too. 


Before you say "I love you", make sure you'll trust me like you trust the person you want to become. 


Make sure you're ready to accept the fact that you'll meet prettier girls, nicer girls, richer girls,  and more well endowed girls, but you'll make a choice to still stay with me. 


Make sure you know we won't have a life like the ones we see in movies or novels, but we'll try our best to have our own "Under the stars" moments. 


Before you say "I love you", make sure you want this to BEGIN in marriage not END in marriage. For a relationship doesn't end in marriage, it actually starts in marriage.  


Make sure you'll pray with me. Make sure you are bold enough to rebuke me when you need to. 


Make sure you're ready to be my father, lover, partner,brother, husband, confidant, counsellor, doctor, lawyer, adviser, homie, padi, bestfriend,  my aproko mate,  my niccur and my KING..... 


Before you say "I love you", make sure you are willing to grow with me, and when my boobs are sagged and my face is wrinkled with old age,  make sure it's still me you wanna see each dawn that breaks. 


So my dear one, it's okay to have feelings for me, it's okay to like me because I like you too. 


But.. if you've haven't gone through all these things and probably more, please don't say "I love you".  


For love knows where to go...


Kabi'esi Adeyeye 

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