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LETTER TO MY YOUNGER SELF

 



Dear Younger Me,


#Takesadeepbreath.

There are so many things I want to tell you, but where do I even start?

#sighs


Let me start by telling you that you're one of the most amazing persons that would ever grace this earth. I want you to know this and put this at the back of your mind always. 


Because a lot of people might want you to see yourself as less. Hence, you'd need this reassurance in every phase of your life.


Also, I want you to know your worth. The world is full of inauthentic people. But make sure you remain a gem.

Don't be afraid to make mistakes.

And when you do, don't hate yourself like I hate myself now. I have made a lot of mistakes and Instead of forgiving myself, I punish myself for them. Don't be like me. Forgive yourself and move on!

I want you to spend more time with our parents. Love them. Cherish them. Make memories with them. Take a lot of photographs with them. Don't be like me who has no single pictures of our dead parents, and who punishes herself for not trying to love them more.


Tell our parents you love them at every opportunity you get, because you are going to lose them very soon, and be entrusted with the care of your younger ones.

When that happens, I want you to give yourself grace. Don't be too hard on yourself. Yes, the loss of both of them, coupled with the huge financial responsibilities that would be thrusted your way, might want to break you or change you.

Please, remain strong. Not for yourself alone, but for our siblings. Those girls would need you every step of their way. And I need you to be there for them, especially financially. This one, I can tell you to be like me. I am trying all my best to take care of our kid sisters and you should too. 

Don't always try to be a macho woman. Don't be like me. Don't bottle your emotions up. One day, It will eat you up like it did me, and you'd up hurting innocent people who come into your life. Cry if you have to. Also, learn to ask for help because you'd be surprised at how much help you can get out there. 

Not everyone will understand you. That's fine. You weren't meant to be understood by everyone. The ones who really matter in your life would understand you, even in your silence.

There will be days it would feel like nothing is working. It feels like that for me now, I feel Like I am not making it big as my friends are. Like my efforts don't count. Like my dreams are insurmountable. And this has made me a shadow of myself and a doubting Thomas a lot of times 

 But you... don't stop dreaming. Don't stop believing especially when your faith fails, because trust me, everything will be alright.

Unlike me, I want you to silence your fears and take more risks. Don't be like me, don't hide in the shadow of "what if it doesn't work", put yourself out there and say yes to opportunities.

Don't forget to celebrate your wins, no matter how small they might be. Celebrate them because YOU made them happen!

When it comes to love, don't also be like me. Love is going to hurt you badly a few times, maybe a lot of times, but don't harden your heart to love. Love with the whole of your heart. Give all you are into your relationships, and if they don't work, be glad that they happened and be open to find someone new. One day, your own person will stay and love you the way you want to be loved. 

Also, don't stop learning. Don't stop working on yourself. Don't relent in your quest to be the best version of yourself that you can ever be. 

Furthermore, put ALL your trust in God. Make God the beginning and ending of your existence. Don't rule out the place of God in your life!

Lastly, be kind to everyone you meet along the way. Make more friends and lesser enemies. Your friends would be your shoulders when life gets tiring. 

Cheers to your journey to becoming me!


With love, 

Older You.


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