Still on the Pastor Adeboye's Cook and Pray teaching, popular OAP , Freeze has given his opinion on pastor Adeboye ’ s advice on marriage . While he supported the fact a spouse should be able to pray for one hour , he
disagreed with cooking as a criteria for marrying a woman … He wrote
This week , I got so many emails and DMs asking for my opinion on Pastor Adeoye’ s message about marrying a woman who cant cook etc. This , being a spiritual issue cannot be tackled with my usual ‘ fayose ’ approach , as I needed to hear from God first .
There were four main issues raised and I will try my best to address all . I wasn ’ t in the service and I am relying on the emails and DMs as a point of reference .
The only part of the message I agree 100 % with , is that no one should marry a man or woman who can ’t pray for 1 hour straight .
The bible instructs us in the book of 1 st Thessalonians chapter 5 verse 17 to “ pray without ceasing” . In as much as we like to operate under the assumption that we control our own lives , in my opinion , the greatest part of our lives is controlled by external forces. Let ’s take the instance of former president Olusegun Obasanjo who was a free man in 1996 , by 1997 he was imprisoned for treason , by 1998 he was released from prison after the sudden death of Abacha and by 1999 he was president of the federal Republic of Nigeria . If in 1996 , Obasanjo had known he was going to be in prison the following year , he probably would have gone to sew prison uniform , awaiting his conviction. Also if in 1997 , with a life sentence hanging around his neck , he had known that in a little over a year he would become president , he would have made adequate preparations , but guess what ? Life happens. I remember having a chat over drinks with my boss Mr Moussalli , who told me that he used to stay in Nice , when Lebanon was being bombed because it was safe and calm . Who would ever have guessed that Nice itself was going to be be the scene of a gruesome terrorist attack about a month ago ? So wisdom doesn ’t guarantee safety and strength doesn ’t guarantee bread . (Ecclesiastes 9 : 11 ) Even the strongest man and the richest man in the world put together cannot control a hurricane.
“ When life happens during your race , you will need a sufficient amount of grace !”~ FRZ
This Grace can only be received through ceaseless prayer!
Talking about marrying a woman that cannot cook is another kettle of fish entirely , as I do not see why this is a criteria for marriage in 2016 . If your woman can ’t cook you have many options which include teaching her, hiring a cook , cooking your own meals or eating out and each has its own distinct and enjoyable flavour. Imagine serving your woman a meal in bed on a Saturday morning, she would gladly retaliate with a favor ‘wink ’.
About marrying a man that has a job I can ’ t disagree more , especially coming from a man of God who is supposed to preach faith and grace as against logic . With the present state of the Nigerian economy, in my own opinion , at least 10 % percent of couples will experience job losses within one week of marriage , considering the way companies are laying off staff .
A friend of mine lost his job the 3 rd day after his wedding , and another friend lost his job 2 days before his first son was born. So why place so much emphasis on having a job , when there is hardly any job security in Nigeria , and you could lose that job in a heartbeat! So the wife of my friend who lost his job 3 days after their wedding should file for a divorce ?
Another thing I heard that Daddy allegedly said was that anyone who wanted sex everyday should come for deliverance . It ’s much easier for a man in his 70 s to preach this , and as I turned 40 this year it ’s a bit easier for me to understand .
However I would have walked out on anyone trying to preach this to me at 31 as it meant setting myself up for fornication since my woman would probably say “ Daddy said it ’s not food so its not everyday”
The bible is very clear on this , as it states in the book of 1 st Corinthians chapter 7 verse 4 , that
“ The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way , the husband doesn ’t have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife ”
Therefore , refusing your spouse sex is dangerous and is not supported by God, as it can lead to adultery which has more serious consequences than daily sex . I hear that there are some tribes in Nigeria that if you marry from, and cannot satisfy daily , you dig the grave of that union with your own hands.
Everyone is physically different , therefore our needs for sex differ .
In my humble opinion, sexual compatibility is of a far greater relevance to a successful marriage than sexual frequency .
Therefore , my advice is ; choose your spouse wisely , while in constant prayer, as being single is miles better than being in a bad marriage ! ~ FRZ
This week , I got so many emails and DMs asking for my opinion on Pastor Adeoye’ s message about marrying a woman who cant cook etc. This , being a spiritual issue cannot be tackled with my usual ‘ fayose ’ approach , as I needed to hear from God first .
There were four main issues raised and I will try my best to address all . I wasn ’ t in the service and I am relying on the emails and DMs as a point of reference .
The only part of the message I agree 100 % with , is that no one should marry a man or woman who can ’t pray for 1 hour straight .
The bible instructs us in the book of 1 st Thessalonians chapter 5 verse 17 to “ pray without ceasing” . In as much as we like to operate under the assumption that we control our own lives , in my opinion , the greatest part of our lives is controlled by external forces. Let ’s take the instance of former president Olusegun Obasanjo who was a free man in 1996 , by 1997 he was imprisoned for treason , by 1998 he was released from prison after the sudden death of Abacha and by 1999 he was president of the federal Republic of Nigeria . If in 1996 , Obasanjo had known he was going to be in prison the following year , he probably would have gone to sew prison uniform , awaiting his conviction. Also if in 1997 , with a life sentence hanging around his neck , he had known that in a little over a year he would become president , he would have made adequate preparations , but guess what ? Life happens. I remember having a chat over drinks with my boss Mr Moussalli , who told me that he used to stay in Nice , when Lebanon was being bombed because it was safe and calm . Who would ever have guessed that Nice itself was going to be be the scene of a gruesome terrorist attack about a month ago ? So wisdom doesn ’t guarantee safety and strength doesn ’t guarantee bread . (Ecclesiastes 9 : 11 ) Even the strongest man and the richest man in the world put together cannot control a hurricane.
“ When life happens during your race , you will need a sufficient amount of grace !”~ FRZ
This Grace can only be received through ceaseless prayer!
Talking about marrying a woman that cannot cook is another kettle of fish entirely , as I do not see why this is a criteria for marriage in 2016 . If your woman can ’t cook you have many options which include teaching her, hiring a cook , cooking your own meals or eating out and each has its own distinct and enjoyable flavour. Imagine serving your woman a meal in bed on a Saturday morning, she would gladly retaliate with a favor ‘wink ’.
About marrying a man that has a job I can ’ t disagree more , especially coming from a man of God who is supposed to preach faith and grace as against logic . With the present state of the Nigerian economy, in my own opinion , at least 10 % percent of couples will experience job losses within one week of marriage , considering the way companies are laying off staff .
A friend of mine lost his job the 3 rd day after his wedding , and another friend lost his job 2 days before his first son was born. So why place so much emphasis on having a job , when there is hardly any job security in Nigeria , and you could lose that job in a heartbeat! So the wife of my friend who lost his job 3 days after their wedding should file for a divorce ?
Another thing I heard that Daddy allegedly said was that anyone who wanted sex everyday should come for deliverance . It ’s much easier for a man in his 70 s to preach this , and as I turned 40 this year it ’s a bit easier for me to understand .
However I would have walked out on anyone trying to preach this to me at 31 as it meant setting myself up for fornication since my woman would probably say “ Daddy said it ’s not food so its not everyday”
The bible is very clear on this , as it states in the book of 1 st Corinthians chapter 7 verse 4 , that
“ The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way , the husband doesn ’t have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife ”
Therefore , refusing your spouse sex is dangerous and is not supported by God, as it can lead to adultery which has more serious consequences than daily sex . I hear that there are some tribes in Nigeria that if you marry from, and cannot satisfy daily , you dig the grave of that union with your own hands.
Everyone is physically different , therefore our needs for sex differ .
In my humble opinion, sexual compatibility is of a far greater relevance to a successful marriage than sexual frequency .
Therefore , my advice is ; choose your spouse wisely , while in constant prayer, as being single is miles better than being in a bad marriage ! ~ FRZ
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